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Back in the dating game after 3 years

2017.11.13 06:24 lookingforkosher Back in the dating game after 3 years

Hi,
Got out of a three year relationship (amicable breakup) about a month ago and I'm looking to get back into dating.
What should a 24y/o guy getting back into dating know about the state of dating in 2017? Is okcupid still the place to be or is there a better dating site.
Additionally, if for example I wanted to specifically find a nice ~24y/o jewish girl to date who's looking for a LTR and possibly marriage, what would be the best site? Is it still okcupid or should I try something like jdate?
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2017.08.25 15:01 exophrine Kramer and Newman start a friendly/romantic texting service for lonely people. George suspects a woman he met on OkCupid of being bald (she constantly wears different wigs). Elaine plies her "shiksappeal" on JDate. Jerry worries that he's being "friendzoned"

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2017.03.14 17:01 muenster_mash [Discussion] Which dating app do you prefer?

• OKCupid
• Tinder
• Bumble
• CmB
• Farmers Only
• Jdate
• Christian Mingle
• Geek 2 Geek
With so many to choose from, how do you decide which one's best for you? Do you use a combination to play the odds? Which ones give you the best results?
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2016.08.25 05:42 viyacondios Ahhhh JDate...

I'm culturally Jewish, and while I'll date a person of any religious/cultural background (as long as they aren't actually religious), I usually get along well with Jewish women. So why not give JDate a try? I was pleasantly surprised that necromancing my 5 yr old account yielded me a steep discount on a 6 month subscription.
Now I didn't have super high hopes going into this; the thing about Jewish people is that almost all of them are breeders, but there are some rare unicorns who are childfree.
Do you want to know the delicious irony? (Well besides for the fact that I need to run the website on IE because it doesn't work properly on Firefox, and that the website just feels like a graveyard compared to Okcupid.) In the general search function, the one refine option that doesn't work is "Plan on Having Children"! LOL
Now granted, considering the proclivities of their typical clientele, I doubt they get many complaints about that broken functionality. I did contact customer service months ago and was told they know about it and are working on it; to date it's yet to be fixed.
Talk about a non-starter!
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2016.04.18 03:06 applebologna David Gardner's new pick released this last Friday...

David's Recommendation: Match Group David Gardner / April 15, 2016 / Buy-Recommendation Invest Foolishly! We recommend owning 15 or more stocks for at least 3-5 years. Begin with three Starter Stocks. Once you're under way, then consider our monthly new ideas to help build out your Stock Advisor portfolio.
WHAT IT DOES
Match Group, a subsidiary of IAC/InterActiveCorp, owns a market-leading portfolio of online dating services, including Match.com, OkCupid, and Tinder.
WHY BUY
Match Group is the leader in online dating, with several of the industry's most popular services. Tinder is a global phenomenon, having facilitated over 8 billion romantic match-ups — while still early in its maturity. Despite fast-growing user and subscriber counts, the stock is attractively valued.
KEY FACTS Headquarters: Dallas, Texas Website: www.matchgroupinc.com Recent Price: $10.30 Risk Rating: 8 out of 25 — Marble Position in Industry: Leader Market Cap: $2,557 Cash/Debt: $100 / $1,234 Revenue ('13/'14/'15): $803 / $888 / $1,020 Earnings ('13/'14/'15): $125 / $148 / $120 Insider Ownership: 84.7% Biggest Threat: Tinder loses its spark and users resist higher prices.
Talk About MTCH
Data as of 4/12/16. Dollar amounts in millions except recent price.
There are no guarantees when it comes to finding someone special, but at least the internet has a lot of places where you can look. You could sign up for a traditional dating service like Match.com. Maybe you want something that skews a bit younger, like OkCupid, or something for older singles, like OurTime. You might be looking for a more focused search, like BlackPeopleMeet. Or maybe you're not looking for someone special so much as someone new, and you just want a "hook-up" app like Tinder or Twoo.
Each of these sites has its own spin on matchmaking, but they're all owned by one corporate Cupid: Match Group (NASDAQ: MTCH). Match, spun out of media mogul Barry Diller's holding company IAC/InterActiveCorp (NASDAQ: IAC) in an IPO last November, has a portfolio of more than 45 brands encompassing many of the world's top dating sites (as well as college prep service Princeton Review — getting into school is another way to find a date, right?).
Does it seem strange that I'd recommend a service whose most satisfied customers may never use it again? Don't underestimate the size of the dating pool as more and more people look for love online. According to Pew Research Center, about 59% of U.S. adults surveyed in 2015 said online dating was a good way to meet people — up from 44% in 2005. Meanwhile, Pew found that 15% of U.S. adults had used an online dating site in 2015, up from 11% just two years earlier. What's more, I think Match does have a path to strong repeat business as Tinder catches fire.
Match is the leader in a growing market, and I think it will do more than flirt with success.
More Than a Pretty Face
It's easy to see why IAC spun out Match (and then kept a big ownership stake): Match was by far the fastest-growing business in IAC's portfolio, boasting 12.7% compounded revenue growth over the past three years. And there's plenty of reason to expect this growth to continue: Match estimates that its addressable market of single Internet users in North America, Western Europe, and select other countries will reach 672 million in 2019, up from around 511 million today. Although Match boasted about 59 million monthly active users as of Sept. 30, and has around 4.6 million paying subscribers, that's just a drop in the bucket.
In fact, subscribers (which the company calls paid member count, or PMC) have been climbing at a solid clip — about 14% annually since 2012 and 18.5% in just the past year. Monthly active users have come in even more quickly, swelling at a 63% annual pace between 2011 and the third quarter of 2015.
You may have noticed that these user and subscriber figures have increased faster than revenue. There are two main reasons for that: Members have been moving to less expensive services in the portfolio, particularly Tinder, and the strong dollar has been a financial drag on results in Europe (where the company saw 31% growth in PMC in 2015). The latter will improve along with European currencies, and the former points to the hidden depths of Match's cross-selling opportunities.
Tinder was initially a free service created by IAC's Hatch Labs in 2012. Even if you've never used it, you may still know how it works, because it's entered the pop-culture lexicon: Swipe right on someone's photo if you like them, and swipe left if you don't. By 2014, Tinder was registering 1 billion swipes per day. So in the fourth quarter of that year, the company switched it to a subscription service, but it kept the pricing much lower than services like Match.com, not wanting to disturb the mass appeal that made the app such a phenomenon. Those pricing experiments are ongoing — it currently charges people over 29 twice as much as the youngsters, and price varies by geography. I believe Tinder is likely to find more pricing power over time, particularly for new features that avid users want.
Tinder may also serve as a front end for a lifelong relationship between Match Group and its customers. Tinder appeals very much to younger people, particularly those not necessarily seeking a serious relationship. But as users grow older and look to settle down, or at least find something longer-term, they will naturally gravitate toward services that Match can promote and incentivize, like Match.com and OkCupid (which is free at a basic level but requires a subscription for premium features).
A Cheap Date
Match has much in common with some of Diller's other great successes, like TripAdvisor (NASDAQ: TRIP) and Expedia (NASDAQ: EXPE): It's another scalable Internet platform that costs fairly little to operate and can produce enormous profits. The company trades at only 14.1 times the $180 million in free cash flow it produced in 2015 (and 16 times trailing earnings per share). Before the IPO, analysts at Bank of America Merrill Lynch valued Tinder at $1.35 billion as a standalone business, but said a more optimistic scenario could make it worth $3 billion. Today, we can buy Match's entire portfolio of more than 45 brands for less than $2.6 billion (not including debt). And that's despite Tinder showing solid performance in the company's inaugural earnings report.
I think Wall Street is overly concerned about declines in average revenue per user as the company adapts to the enormous opportunity that is Tinder and fits it in with its other services. Like other Internet platforms, Match has been buffeted by the switch from desktop to mobile. Overall, this has benefited the company — Tinder, for example, is a mobile-only platform — but it has posed some of the conversion challenges that other online businesses have seen, as Match seeks to turn massive numbers of browsers into paying subscribers. This, too, I expect to settle out in the quarters ahead.
Risks and When We'd Sell
Match Group owns a broad swath of top online dating sites, but it hardly has a monopoly — it competes with well-established sites like eHarmony, up-and-comers like Zoosk, and various niche services like ChristianMingle, JDate, SingleParentMeet, and many more. The barriers to entry are low, and Match needs to keep up with competitive features, continue acquiring competitors, or both.
Meanwhile, the company's PMC growth is coming largely from Tinder, as well as the recent acquisition of Plenty of Fish. Without these, subscriber numbers are fairly flat. Thus, even though Match has a diverse portfolio of services, a lot is riding on the continued popularity of Tinder in particular. While it has been remarkably successful, the model is fairly new.
Match carries a substantial debt load, with a current ratio of 0.6 and a debt-to-equity ratio of 433%. Much of its debt is from a term loan due in 2022, and its obligations should be readily managed from cash flow for the next several years, but the company has a large balance due in 2022 that may require refinancing (and since it carries variable interest, the company's obligations could change).
Finally, note that IAC still owns about 85% of the company — so as shareholders, we are at the whim the company's corporate parent. While we assume Diller and his colleagues will seek to maximize the value of the stock, if we find our interests are at cross-purposes, it's clear who's in charge of this relationship.
The Foolish Bottom Line
It's hard to put a price on love, which is why so many different dating services, with so many price points, have thrived in the Internet era. Match Group boasts an unmatched portfolio of top sites, and it's producing lots of high-margin cash flow even as it experiments with optimal pricing. Whether you love Match Group or just like the look of it, it's worth courting the company at this price.
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2016.03.25 20:24 akesh45 Are sites like match.com/okcupid worth it compared to tinder/bumble/etc?

I'm 30 and I do pretty well on online dating apps like tinder and similar ones. I never did the older dating sites like match,jdate, ethnic dating sites, plenty of fish, eh armory, Christian singles and okcupid: seemed like too much work and $$$ when I tried it years ago. Localized dating sites when I lived abroad regularly were gold though.
1.Are they pretty much dead these day? They seem old school compared to tinder. 2. What age ranges do you typically see on these sites... I know match skews older which is great since mid twenties up is my golden zone. 3. Are they down for fun or all looking to spend 5 sex less dates before deciding your husband material? Easy lays or alot of work? 4. How about ethnic oriented dating sites like Jewish, Arabic, Indian ones in the usa? 5. Don't think I would ever venture on Christian singles but if it's an easy lay paradise I don't mind trying ....any experiences?
  1. Worth trying out or should I save my cash and be happy with my dating app results?
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2015.12.09 03:11 justduck Psychiatric Internet Dating?

So, there are the general dating sites like Match and eHarmony. And the free sites like Tinder, OKCupid, and Plenty of Fish. If you're Christian you can check out ChristianMingle, Jews can try Jdate. Things have splintered even further so that there are sites specifically for geeks, professionals, farmers, BBW, fetish...hell there's even one for depression dating and, well just read this
So two questions for you.
1) How long until someone develops a site for people with mental illness? You know, in general, where you mark if you're BPD, schizo, bipolar, etc?
2) Would you date another "crazy" person?
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2015.10.18 22:06 eqder212 Why is it so damn hard to find a relationship?

Supposedly, for the first time in U.S. history, the majority of U.S. adults are single. That number was 22% in 1950. Why is this happening? Not saying that being single is a bad thing, but some of us are actually trying to find relationships and it’s just not working for us. I’m trying to figure out why.
When I (33/m) began dating after my last relationship (~6 years ago), my friends suggested I join dating sites - OKCupid, Tinder, Match, Jdate, et al. “Oh these days you’ve got to do online dating!” my good friend said. So I did. That’s where things started to not work. Back in my 20s, before Tinder hijacked the world's women, I would ask girls out in REAL life. If I saw a cute girl, I’d talk to her & ask for her #; that led to dates & sometimes relationships.
Today? The Match Group, which owns Tinder, OKCupid, & Match, claims that they serve millions of people. That includes me. On a daily basis I swipe left & right like an idiot thinking that it might actually lead to something productive. It doesn’t. And not because I'm unappealing. I’m tall and fit. I've been told I'm good-looking. I have an advanced degree and I do fairly well. Rather, I think it’s because the online dating model just seems to not lead to relationships (I know that's a general statement). I review all my matches. Post “match” stage, either I don’t hear from them or they get lost in my Tinder bank (meaning they don’t hear from me). Also, I’ll sometimes talk to a girl on the app for a few days – and when I ask for her number, she stops responding. Why the fuck did she swipe right then? Ugh.
Are others experiencing the same frustration? What’s the solution? I feel like options are being tossed at us ad nauseam, but they don't actually lead to anything lasting and maybe they're even counterproductive to finding relationships.
Thoughts?
TL;DR: White 33 male looking for relationship help because online dating ain't gettin' me anywhere.
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2015.01.05 18:32 LarryGergich OKC Co founder Sam Yagan AMA - All answers tabled

Stole this from /tabled . I figure it will help discussion and make it easier to read to have it all in the sub.
Here is the original post
Questions Answers
Do you feel wiser in the business, personal, or maybe technical field? How much do the arenas overlap? I'm not sure I feel "wise" (just thinking about being wise makes me feel old!) about anything, but I'd say I have the least knowledge about technology. While I have run technology companies and I studied and taught computer science in college, i never call myself a technologist.
Personally, I always feel like i can be a better friend, husband, and father, so I'd put that second to last.
Which I guess makes business #1, just by process of elimination.
I'd say there's pretty little overlap. I know people who are really good at one, but not the others. And very few people are great at all three.
I was really wondering how a day in the life of Sam Yagan looks like. I spend a lot of time traveling (we have offices in Dallas, NYC, LA, Paris, Rio, SF, etc.), but when i wake up at home, I typically get up early (today was 5:15) go for a run (today was 5k) and get my kids ready for school and off to the bus stop. I try to be at work by 8 and spend most of my day talking to the people who run the various businesses (Tinder, Match, OkCupid, Meetic, etc) or our big functions (Technology, product, finance, marketing, analytics, etc.). Then home for dinner with the family, before catching up on email after the kids turn in.
Bonus question - What are some of your hobbies, and how do you get by a weekend? Hobbies? I used to have them. Now I just have little kids. :)
Why do high matches on okcupid ignore each other? Am I not grabbing peoples attention? Why is it harder for same sex daters to find dates on okcupid? On your second question, I believe that OkCupid is the dating app of choice for most same-sex daters. We have always welcomed same-sex daters and individuals from other marginalized communities.
Why do high matches ignore each other? Well, most people ignore other people -- online and offline -- but Christian has done the research and we know for a fact that high match percentages definitely increase the probability that two people will communicate.
If you send me a link to your profile, I can try to see if I have any suggestions to make it more grabby. :)
Is online dating "good" for society? Why or why not, and what are the potential unintended consequences of this behavior? 3) The ease of getting back in the dating market makes empowers people in bad relationships to leave them, knowing that loneliness isn't the only alternative to their current situation.
What do you think is the biggest hurdle in making internet dating "cool"? It gets more and more mainstream every day. I dont even really care about "cool" i just want it to be "normal." I want everyone who wants love/friendship/dates/relationships to have them. I want to contribute to that mission every single day. And I dont want anyone to be deprived of affection or companionship because the most effective tool ever created -- online dating -- is somehow not "cool" or "normal" enough. It just makes me sad.
How has the role of data and algorithms changed in the life of OKCupid? I feel like initially, it was more data-driven and gave users more access to match percentages. Lately, the interface has felt more Tinder-like, focusing on spending less time per match and showcasing photos and quick blurbs of text if any. Do you think this trend of focusing on quick, picture-based interactions will continue? Thank you! I wouldn't say it's about picture-based or not picture-based. Pictures are always important in any dating environment. More important, though, is the form factor. The average person checks her smartphone over 100 times a day and the average time a person spends in an app is about 90 second. Consumers now expect to get value from an app in under a minute, while we at OkCupid are as data-geeky as ever, the interface for users will continue to evolve to feel as current and relevant as possible.
What has been the biggest challenge of your career? Gosh, so many. I think the biggest challenge was turning OkCupid around. In 2009, OkC really wasn't doing well. Growth had slowed. We were running out of money. We'd been doing it for six years and the founders were all getting impatient. But we all dug in and saved the company, turning it in to what it is today.
What do you feel are the biggest pros and cons to online dating as a whole? Or, in your interpretation of the data, what do you see as the biggest pro and con? Great question. I actually don't know what the cons are. What are the cons to ecommerce? What are the cons to email? I mean, sure, there's a time and a place for everything, but no one ever asks "Do you shop online" or "do you communicate online" yet people still ask "do you date online."
Biggest pro is that you get dates. :)
I met my now boyfriend of one year through tinder (of all places). Everyone looks at it as a hookup app, although I really used it to find someone long term. What do you view it as? I know so many people who have met their boyfriends, girlfriends, fiances, fiancees, husbands, and wives on Tinder. Do people hook up on Tinder? Sure, but it's hard to get married without hooking up, no? I bet even people on eHarmony hook up! I look at Tinder right up there with Match and OkCupid as one of the three best ways to find a relationship.
What do you think of niche dating sites like farmer's only? Do you think it's a fad or will they persist in the marketplace? I love niche dating products -- we have a bunch in our portfolio, including OurTime (50+) and BlackPeopleMeet. Of course, Jdate (not ours) proves just how pervasive a brand can become by specializing and focusing on one segment. As for Farmers Only, not sure about the business, but I love the ads!
Does the free-ness of OKC attract a different group of people as compared to Match's subscription fee? Do you think this would even go as far to affect the relationship that could be formed from each site? Which site see's the most traffic? How does that relate to matches? Last one, how it feel know you're sites have paired literally tens of thousands of people together? Each dating product attracts a different user, and "freeness" is just one component (Tinder & OkC attract different users; Match and OurTime attract different users, etc.). So, yes, Match users and OkC users are different. I hate talking about "better quality" when referring to human beings, but it is true that people who pay for Match likely have higher intent than people on OkCupid or Tinder.
Has the online dating business significantly boomed in the past few years? Do you expect business to get better and better as the technology becomes more accessible? Absolutely. In the last 5 years, the number of Monthly Active Users of dating products is up almost 3x! Mobile technology will make our products work better, but more importantly, as everyone knows someone who has met through a dating app, it will become even more mainstream than it is today.
Could you please implement a function on OkCupid that allows for people to search and see if they're in their matches' preferred age range? This is a common addition that gets asked for a lot on /okcupid. I'm not sure we'll do it exactly that way, but we have often discussed ways of enforcing people's age preferences. The problem is that not everyone cares about their age ranges equally, meaning that many people don't at all mind chatting with people outside their ranges -- their ranges are a preference, but not a firm filter.
If one belongs to a demographic against whom your own data has indicated there are numerous biases that have nothing to do with an individual’s own choices – e.g., I had men engage with full conversations with me over messaging and then vanish into thin air when I posted pictures -- do you have any suggestions other than “try 6 times harder than anyone else” …? ETA: Especially since you just said this (I'm focused on your very first sentence there)? Great question. Again, when i think about online dating, i first think about offline dating analogs. In offline dating, race is one of the first things that someone notices about you. Because you can't reveal your race over time as easily offline as you can online, the rejection often comes earlier. Believe me, we care deeply about this topic and Christian wrote some pretty ground-breaking stuff on this topic on the blog: Link to blog.okcupid.com
Hey there! I actually just wanted to let you know that I found the love of my life on OkCupid. We've been together for 2 years. How is the overall satisfaction rate for your other endeavors? That's awesome! You made my day! We get countless success stories from users across all of our products, so I think satisfaction rates are pretty high. At the end of the day, you get out of dating products what you put into them, so people who really engage earnestly usually find success.
How do you feel about people using your sites for side action? It's unfortunate, but I know it does happen. Whenever I think about online dating, i always start with the offline dating analog. I don't condone "side action," whether found online or offline, but it's not the bar or the dating app at fault, of course, it's the "side actor."
Any plans for a Tinder not linking to Facebook? Facebook auth provides many advantages, but there's no reason not to provide an alternative (especially in international markets where Facebook is not ubiquitous). Just a matter of priorities.
But treadmills might lead to better dates. I think you've just come up with the next big thing!
What's the next big things in internet dating? If speed dating came along after traditional dating, and internet dating came after that, what will be the next big leap in internet dating outside the traditional bar hook up? Well, only in the last year have we really seen mobile apps really overtake desktop apps not just in usage, but in functionality. Let's see how apps + mobile data + social presence evolve over the next couple years before we look beyond that.
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2015.01.05 17:54 tabledresser [Table] IAmA: I am Sam Yagan, co-founder of OkCupid, CEO of Match, and on the Board of Tinder. This is dating's busiest week of the year. Need help? AMA.

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Date: 2015-01-05
Link to submission (Has self-text)
Questions Answers
Do you feel wiser in the business, personal, or maybe technical field? How much do the arenas overlap? I'm not sure I feel "wise" (just thinking about being wise makes me feel old!) about anything, but I'd say I have the least knowledge about technology. While I have run technology companies and I studied and taught computer science in college, i never call myself a technologist.
Personally, I always feel like i can be a better friend, husband, and father, so I'd put that second to last.
Which I guess makes business #1, just by process of elimination.
I'd say there's pretty little overlap. I know people who are really good at one, but not the others. And very few people are great at all three.
I was really wondering how a day in the life of Sam Yagan looks like. I spend a lot of time traveling (we have offices in Dallas, NYC, LA, Paris, Rio, SF, etc.), but when i wake up at home, I typically get up early (today was 5:15) go for a run (today was 5k) and get my kids ready for school and off to the bus stop. I try to be at work by 8 and spend most of my day talking to the people who run the various businesses (Tinder, Match, OkCupid, Meetic, etc) or our big functions (Technology, product, finance, marketing, analytics, etc.). Then home for dinner with the family, before catching up on email after the kids turn in.
Bonus question - What are some of your hobbies, and how do you get by a weekend? Hobbies? I used to have them. Now I just have little kids. :)
Why do high matches on okcupid ignore each other? Am I not grabbing peoples attention? Why is it harder for same sex daters to find dates on okcupid? On your second question, I believe that OkCupid is the dating app of choice for most same-sex daters. We have always welcomed same-sex daters and individuals from other marginalized communities.
Why do high matches ignore each other? Well, most people ignore other people -- online and offline -- but Christian has done the research and we know for a fact that high match percentages definitely increase the probability that two people will communicate.
If you send me a link to your profile, I can try to see if I have any suggestions to make it more grabby. :)
Is online dating "good" for society? Why or why not, and what are the potential unintended consequences of this behavior? 3) The ease of getting back in the dating market makes empowers people in bad relationships to leave them, knowing that loneliness isn't the only alternative to their current situation.
What do you think is the biggest hurdle in making internet dating "cool"? It gets more and more mainstream every day. I dont even really care about "cool" i just want it to be "normal." I want everyone who wants love/friendship/dates/relationships to have them. I want to contribute to that mission every single day. And I dont want anyone to be deprived of affection or companionship because the most effective tool ever created -- online dating -- is somehow not "cool" or "normal" enough. It just makes me sad.
How has the role of data and algorithms changed in the life of OKCupid? I feel like initially, it was more data-driven and gave users more access to match percentages. Lately, the interface has felt more Tinder-like, focusing on spending less time per match and showcasing photos and quick blurbs of text if any. Do you think this trend of focusing on quick, picture-based interactions will continue? Thank you! I wouldn't say it's about picture-based or not picture-based. Pictures are always important in any dating environment. More important, though, is the form factor. The average person checks her smartphone over 100 times a day and the average time a person spends in an app is about 90 second. Consumers now expect to get value from an app in under a minute, while we at OkCupid are as data-geeky as ever, the interface for users will continue to evolve to feel as current and relevant as possible.
What has been the biggest challenge of your career? Gosh, so many. I think the biggest challenge was turning OkCupid around. In 2009, OkC really wasn't doing well. Growth had slowed. We were running out of money. We'd been doing it for six years and the founders were all getting impatient. But we all dug in and saved the company, turning it in to what it is today.
What do you feel are the biggest pros and cons to online dating as a whole? Or, in your interpretation of the data, what do you see as the biggest pro and con? Great question. I actually don't know what the cons are. What are the cons to ecommerce? What are the cons to email? I mean, sure, there's a time and a place for everything, but no one ever asks "Do you shop online" or "do you communicate online" yet people still ask "do you date online."
Biggest pro is that you get dates. :)
I met my now boyfriend of one year through tinder (of all places). Everyone looks at it as a hookup app, although I really used it to find someone long term. What do you view it as? I know so many people who have met their boyfriends, girlfriends, fiances, fiancees, husbands, and wives on Tinder. Do people hook up on Tinder? Sure, but it's hard to get married without hooking up, no? I bet even people on eHarmony hook up! I look at Tinder right up there with Match and OkCupid as one of the three best ways to find a relationship.
What do you think of niche dating sites like farmer's only? Do you think it's a fad or will they persist in the marketplace? I love niche dating products -- we have a bunch in our portfolio, including OurTime (50+) and BlackPeopleMeet. Of course, Jdate (not ours) proves just how pervasive a brand can become by specializing and focusing on one segment. As for Farmers Only, not sure about the business, but I love the ads!
Does the free-ness of OKC attract a different group of people as compared to Match's subscription fee? Do you think this would even go as far to affect the relationship that could be formed from each site? Which site see's the most traffic? How does that relate to matches? Last one, how it feel know you're sites have paired literally tens of thousands of people together? Each dating product attracts a different user, and "freeness" is just one component (Tinder & OkC attract different users; Match and OurTime attract different users, etc.). So, yes, Match users and OkC users are different. I hate talking about "better quality" when referring to human beings, but it is true that people who pay for Match likely have higher intent than people on OkCupid or Tinder.
Has the online dating business significantly boomed in the past few years? Do you expect business to get better and better as the technology becomes more accessible? Absolutely. In the last 5 years, the number of Monthly Active Users of dating products is up almost 3x! Mobile technology will make our products work better, but more importantly, as everyone knows someone who has met through a dating app, it will become even more mainstream than it is today.
Could you please implement a function on OkCupid that allows for people to search and see if they're in their matches' preferred age range? This is a common addition that gets asked for a lot on /okcupid. I'm not sure we'll do it exactly that way, but we have often discussed ways of enforcing people's age preferences. The problem is that not everyone cares about their age ranges equally, meaning that many people don't at all mind chatting with people outside their ranges -- their ranges are a preference, but not a firm filter.
Hey there! I actually just wanted to let you know that I found the love of my life on OkCupid. We've been together for 2 years. How is the overall satisfaction rate for your other endeavors? That's awesome! You made my day! We get countless success stories from users across all of our products, so I think satisfaction rates are pretty high. At the end of the day, you get out of dating products what you put into them, so people who really engage earnestly usually find success.
How do you feel about people using your sites for side action? It's unfortunate, but I know it does happen. Whenever I think about online dating, i always start with the offline dating analog. I don't condone "side action," whether found online or offline, but it's not the bar or the dating app at fault, of course, it's the "side actor."
Any plans for a Tinder not linking to Facebook? Facebook auth provides many advantages, but there's no reason not to provide an alternative (especially in international markets where Facebook is not ubiquitous). Just a matter of priorities.
But treadmills might lead to better dates. I think you've just come up with the next big thing!
What's the next big things in internet dating? If speed dating came along after traditional dating, and internet dating came after that, what will be the next big leap in internet dating outside the traditional bar hook up? Well, only in the last year have we really seen mobile apps really overtake desktop apps not just in usage, but in functionality. Let's see how apps + mobile data + social presence evolve over the next couple years before we look beyond that.
Did you ever compile the data you have collected over the years and published it? Also as a current college student I'm interested in how your education in mathematics helped you in a business career? First, look at Link to blog.okcupid.com
Second look at Link to www.amazon.com
Finally, yes, I think technical backgrounds are probably the most helpful for people in business.
Tinder has said they have plans for premium service. Any hints as to what the pay features may be? Not confirming any of this, but there's plenty of reporting on this topic: Link to techcrunch.com
What's your favorite kind of soup? Used to be cream of mushroom. Now probably something with butternut squash or corn. Or both.
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2014.12.26 21:24 throwaway-something Mom is implying that she'll reject any grandchildren that aren't raised Jewish

My mother has always been emotional (and in many ways, irrational). This has come from a myriad of torment in her life--bullying growing up, a disjointed relationship with her mother (who died in 2006, and frankly, Mom has never been the same since), her dying Father, and an inability to work, drive, fly, or be completely independent due to various non-terminal health issues.
For a multitude of reasons (mostly her), I turned down jobs in California to stay near home in the midwest. I wanted her to be around for my formative years and to not feel like she's losing me. I also lived at home for a year to save up some money (I've got a pretty good job, so my finances were never really dire).
To give more context, I grew up in a very Jewish community. I got Bar Mitzvah'd (as did many of my friends given the demographics of the neighborhood), we went to temple a moderate amount, and I got my Judaism fix. But as I've grown older, I don't care for religion. I don't find solace in it, I don't identify with the faith, and I don't participate in a lot of religious activity. But i respect it and those who do--many of my friends and family have found happiness in faith, and that's up to them.
So cut to last night. We started talking about something that we've brushed upon in the past (in high school or something): marrying a Jewish person. She asked if I was on any dating sites. I said OKCupid. She asked if I wanted to go on JDate. I said that I don't have much interest in limiting myself to Jews.
Turns out, she saw that as anti-semitic, stormed off, and treated me with hostility the rest of the day.
Later on, she pulled me aside, and condemned how "open-minded" I was, and saw it as a failure on her part. She decried the fact that I got my parents a nice Christmas card instead of getting her a Hanukkah Card. She talked about marrying my non-religious dad and how much (apparent) trauma there was between the families as a result. She started saying things that I've never heard her say, like that her side of the family was objectively more well-mannered than my father's, and that the conversations at family functions were filled with much more weight and depth.
After the discussion (I'm numb with anger at this point). I said the following:
"All I ask is that no matter the ethnicity or religion or anything of a girl that I bring home to meet you that you will treat her with respect."
I don't recall the exact words she responded with, but they included "I want my grandchildren raised Jewish" and "I don't want my grandchildren to have a Christmas tree in your home" and "If you think that inter-religious marriages are tough, imagine an inter-racial one".
I don't really know what to do here. I know that my mother has problems being wrong in a discussion and with letting her emotions get the best of her. But there was something different about our discussion last night. I know where she's coming from (today I've dived deep into the world of intense Jewish people that have very strong opinions about marrying other Jewish people).
But at the same time, I don't know why I can't have both: a mother that loves and respects my choices (which she does, except for this one), and a life where I practice the belief systems that I want to. I'm tempted to quit my job and move out West; I stayed here for her, and now she's attempting to control my life in a way that I am not comfortable with, and I almost don't want to be around to see her grow distasteful and resentful of me.
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2014.11.23 19:06 fwavoy Jake and Amir: Date Night

INTRO
AMIR: Hey, you're watching a very sexy episode of Jake and Amir!
JAKE: Hope not.
AMIR: Sexy!
[Amir is at a restaurant on a date. He and his date are sitting in uncomfortable silence. She brushes her hair away from her eyes, and in response, Amir makes a face as if he's straining to hear something she said.]
AMIR: [almost inaudibly] Hm?
[Amir's date just shakes her head. They sit in silence for a while longer, and then she yawns.]
AMIR: And I win! You spoke first, and thus I have the upper hand now.
AMIR'S DATE: I didn't say anything.
AMIR: Power play. [chuckles] What's so funny, maggot?
AMIR'S DATE: Nothing.
AMIR: Look, this isn't my first rodeo, okay? I'm on Tinder, Grindr, GROWLr, OKCupid, SoGayStupid, Twinge, Hinge, JDate, JSwipe, YouPorn, JYouPorn... I've seen it all, honey. What's your poison?
AMIR'S DATE: "Twinge"?
AMIR: I have not heard of that one. Is that a digestif?
AMIR'S DATE: You said Twinge. I don't know what that is.
AMIR: [to the server] Let's get my date a wine, and I think I will have... twinge.
[The server pours Amir's date a glass of wine. As he stops pouring, Amir tips his hand back the way it was, filling the glass to the very top. Unable to pick it up without spilling it, Amir's date leans in to sip from it.]
AMIR: So here's what I'm gonna offer you: [holding up a wad of bills] this is five hundred dollars in cash, and it's yours if you leave right now.
[She grabs the cash and begins counting.]
AMIR: Just know that if you do take the money and run, that's it. You can't come back. No more second date. Sort of a coy little way to figure out if my dates are in it for the long Paul! [holds up a picture of Paul Dano]
[Amir's date leaves with the money.]
AMIR: ...No one's ever not taken the cash.
[Cut to black.]
AMIR: Fuck.
[The rest of Amir's night is presented in a melancholy montage. Amir walks home, twitching with frustration. For lack of any emotional outlet, Amir lunges at a homeless man to try and make him flinch. The man lunges back, growling. Amir screams and runs away.]
[Amir enters his dark apartment and locks the door. He kicks one shoe off and tosses it into the corner, then flops down on his bed. He kicks off his other shoe, and it nearly hits him in the face. By his bedside table, we see that Amir has several pictures of Jake.]
[Amir unbuckles his belt and puts his hand in his pants. He masturbates while staring listlessly at the ceiling of his apartment.]
AMIR: [orgasming] Oooo!
[Amir opens a packet of barbecue sauce and puts it on some chicken nuggets for himself.]
[Amir stares into the mirror, holding a toothbrush with toothpaste on it, and contemplates brushing his teeth. He shakes his head, and puts the toothbrush back down, throwing the toothpaste tube onto the sink counter with it.]
[Amir lies in bed, still numb. A framed picture of him and Jake sits in the background on his bedside table. Amir quietly begins crying.]
[Amir comes in to the office the next day, and sits down in the chair in solemn silence. Jake stares at him, waiting for something.]
AMIR: [suddenly as energetic as ever] Got laid last night! [laughs]
END
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2014.10.11 15:19 Son_of_Maximus If you use Craigslist and want to know alternatives, this list is for you.

I had found this image and had shared it earlier on the craigslist subreddit but thought it might be valuable to the Entrepreneurs in here. Ill add links to all the sites if my statement holds true.
Craigslist Alternatives
Edit: I Put all the links from the image and added a few that some mentioned in comments. If you know any others, PM me or comment and I will add them. (keep in mind I FOUND this image) I did not create it. I just posted it for the community.
Links by Catergory:
Community
PickupPal
Zimride
Personals
Plentyoffish.com
Okcupid
Jdate No longer Active
Subwaycrush
F***mylife
Housing
Renthop
AirBnB
Homeaway
CouchSurfing
For Sale
Vast
Neighborgoods
Etsy
Goozex No longer Active
Gazelle
Listia
Stubhub
IdonowIdont
CycleTrader
AutoTrader
Lushpad
Studenify Beta Coming Soon
Services
Care
RedFin
RunMyErrand
Spafinder
LegalZoom
TutorsonDemand
TeachStreet No longer Active
JudysBook
Jobs
Indeed
Simplyhired
TutorsonDemand
Elance
Guru
TaskRabbit
Odesk
Gigs
99Copywriters.com
DesignPortfolios Beta? Not working?
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2014.03.26 18:58 rbarr14 Love in A Virtual Place

There’s okcupid. There’s Facebook. There’s even christianmingle and blacksingles and jdate. There’s a multitude of websites.
Love? There’s an app for that.
In many ways, I am a “modern woman.” Fiercely independent, feisty, opinionated, self-reliant, determined, smart, funny… all the things a man looks for in a woman. Just kidding. No he doesn’t.
While I try to wow men with my intelligence and humor, with my ability to cook and kick ass, they’re texting that cute bartender from down the street whose number they got in some vague, backhanded way. Or the actress/waitress with the sexy smile who doesn’t know that Africa isn’t a country.
Better yet, he is contacting that girl who is friends of a friend with someone on Facebook, whose profile picture – though he made fun of the very same duck face from a different girl’s picture – shows her in a bikini rocking a “hot bod.” He wonders if she’s down, if she wants to hang out. He messages her his number, texts her dick pics.
And it works. Against all odds and everything I think I know about men, that girl from the picture is his girlfriend. And they’re in love. Or so says the newest caption.
Social media tells me that people are hugely happy all the time, that relationships are smiley pictures and road trips, that little hearts and “I have the best gf ever” are meaningful statements. That when the next girl comes along, and the little hearts are for her this time, that it doesn’t change how heartfelt they are. It tells me that no matter how boring or ill-fitting a couple seems, no matter how mismatched or unequal, their night out at dinner on their one month “anniversary” was full of happiness and the picture I’m forced to look at is worth a thousand words of love.
In many ways, I am looking for the “modern man.” The one who wants a woman who is independent, who respects her, who loves her quirks and her temper, who doesn’t act like she should have sex with him and then make him a sandwich. (Or at least one who keeps that to himself.)
Instead, I found Tom. We met at work. I was funny and smart and nice; we had heart-to-hearts, interesting conversations, lots of laughter. Yet, he never asked me out on a date. He never asked me to “hang out,” that viscous phrase encompassing unknown intentions. His virtual life, the one I was privy to, continued to haunt me. He posted pictures with beautiful women, “liked” endless photos of his model friends, wrote status after status about the virtues of a “true” woman, not these waif-like stick figures we’ve come to expect. And this “true” woman before him, he virtually ignored.
Until one fine day. I suppose he was horny. Or lonely. Or nine said “no” and the tenth, me, said “yes.” I went over to his house. We kissed and talked and laughed and watched a movie. He asked me to spend the night, but I couldn’t. Maybe I was wrong about him. Maybe he didn’t want those models with the thighs that don’t touch and the perfect hair.
Except maybe I was right. We hooked up one more time, if you can call it that. We had sex, it was actually amazing, but at the end he said, “I’m not really looking for anything right now…” and trailed off, like I was supposed to know what anything meant. Like I had even said anything about anything in the first place.
No more calls, no more texts. If you don’t include the ones requesting pictures of my breasts, that is. Or taking a trip down boob memory lane via text, as he was wont to do in the late hours of the night.
I thought: it’s my personality. He doesn’t like my personality. Then pictures began to pop up on various sites. Instagram. His virtual love story slapped me in the face. There was a woman, one that I knew, sitting on his lap. Kissing his face. Taking half-naked pictures of herself and posting them on his wall.
This woman, who was 19 at the time (he was 35), who had dropped out of college, who had no job or income to speak of, who lived with her parents and took the bus, who couldn’t legally drink or drive, whose virtues escape me even to this day. She was apparently what he was looking for.
I suppose it speaks volumes about who he is as a person and why he would be able to relate to someone so much younger than him, but I think it speaks to a generation of “what’s next?”. I think it speaks to the notion that no matter who they’re with: a model, an “average” woman, the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, men want to know what else is out there. A relationship is like an invisible noose around their necks (and penises), and in this age of virtual love, they don’t have to stick either head in the noose. They can have virtually anyone they want.
Because in an age of feminism and female power, it seems we are powerless. Powerless against the gravitational pull of women everywhere. Against the virtual onslaught of the perfect picture. The one that shows a woman in the perfect light, with the perfect makeup, posing so that her not-so-perfect features begin to look, against all odds, perfect. And suddenly his eye is drawn to her…
Love is everywhere, it seems. Every nook and cranny of the internet. Every social media website, in 183 characters or less, love, love, love. True love. Happy love. Love best expressed in a million different photographs, preferably on days and in ways that makes others feel even lonelier. And then it’s over. No explanation for the hundreds of people who somehow felt invested in these relationships. But, soon, a new one will emerge, and the old one will be erased forever from the virtual history books.
Tinder. Hornet. Grindr. Zoosk. Oh, yeah, love? There’s definitely an app for that.
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2014.01.23 22:33 lignare Anyone know whatever happened to the patent lawsuit by JDate against OKCupid?

There was a patent lawsuit back in 2011 by JDate against OKCupid's/others' secret match feature (basically if two users indicate they like each other anonymously then they are revealed to each other).
Does anyone know whatever happened to that? There's not hits on it on Google since 2011.
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2013.02.06 19:32 deathcabforkitty What to Do On Singles Awareness day for OkCupiders (stolen from JDate)

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2012.08.19 12:09 spacechimpsarego Thoughts on JDate?

After a complicated relationship and some intense discussions with friends, I've decided I only want to date other Jews. Online dating suits my schedule, but while I live in a major metro area, the JDate pool is very thin. Is it worth joining? Are there other places I should be looking? I've found OKCupid lacking in Jews who care remotely about being Jewish, and Match to suck in general. Thoughts?
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2012.08.15 22:59 Robeleader Dating websites, which one does what?

Dating websites are hard. There, the penis joke is out there in the open. Along with the creeper one.
Anyway, I’ve been out of the “game” as it were. To be honest, I was never really in “it,” my various relationships just kinda fell into my lap. I’ve tried going to bars, but no one there tends to be really looking for a relationship partner, and if that is a secondary motivation, their primary motivation tends to be having a good time, which I’ve heard having guys hit on you, is not.
In any case, it has been mentioned repeatedly that I should take some time and get involved with a dating website. However, as may be obvious, I think too much. There are 3 major dating ‘sites that I can think of, Match.com, eharmony, and okcupid. I’ve seen various stories on reddit about relationships that came and went from these sites, as well as Jdate and others, but those tend to not be as big, or as talked about.
What I’d like is your collective appraisal of the options out there. Tell me your stories, tell me about your friends. Which one tends to be for casual sex/hookups, which is for long term? Which is better for the gays/lesbians/bisexuals/queeasexual/etc.? What was the best experience, what was the worst? which has the largest user base, which has the most active one? How much do they cost, is it worth it? Any warnings before I and everyone else sets out?
I saw the /relationships subreddit, but as this isn't ACTUALLY about relationships, just websites and the people that inhabit them, I wasn't sure if it goes there.
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2012.02.01 00:52 FloydDeBarber I don't get jack shit from online dating - not really sure why.

Profile: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/asnyc718
I feel like I've had just about every possible combination of profile, pics, etc, over the past few years. Humorous, cocky, or straightforward profiles; well-dressed pics, douchey pics, pics with pets, pics of me having fun or doing cool things. Same results across 3 sites (OKC, POF, jdate) - very few views a week, extremely low response rate (< 5% after hundreds of messages sent), and when I get them, the convos typically drop off after the first or second follow-up. I'm social and well-liked IRL, and doubt I'm coming off much different online. My two guesses are height and looks. If that's what you perceive to be the issue, then please give me the brutally honest feedback. Online dating might not be for me, and I'm OK with that if that's the case.
Just a heads up - it's not the part that says that I won't send a first message. I just added that a week ago after sending out a bunch of them over months. Ironically, this gave me a brief spike of incoming messages - probably the most successful thing I've attempted.
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2011.08.26 19:06 bears184 LOL and over the top self-deprecation: please stop using it.

As a woman on OKC, I could go on for hours about the absolutely bizarre behavior I have been subjected to on the site. I'm sure there are countless other women who have posted to this subreddit with horror stories (and likely, plenty of dudes, too). I understand that I'm on a free dating site, and therefore, to a certain extent I'm getting what I'm paying for. All that being said--people of OKCupid, can we please all come to an agreement to not be the sort of sad sacks that turn "forever alone" into a self-fulfilling prophecy? And can we please all learn some basics of written communication?
I propose the following commandments:
UPDATE - additions to the list (paraphrased to fit format where necessary)
- Thou shalt not misrepresent oneself or censor thine own preferences for the sake of appearance. We all have preferences, and you are wasting everyone's time when you pretend to be more open-minded than you actually are.
- Thou shalt not lie about your current marital status.
Any commandments to add?
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